Often in the course of a day, I find my mind entertaining negative thoughts about situations or people. It happens more some days than others, and sometimes I wallow in it for a time before I get tired of my sour attitude. I get aggravated with myself and remember that my negative reaction only lessens my ability to live as I desire—in joyful harmony with all God’s creation. I am a cog in the wheel of the world, imbued with infinite love that I can access with practice and patience.
When I catch myself resisting a situation or person, I try to notice my thoughts and feelings and first validate them with self-compassion, “anyone in my position would feel this way.” I look at how I am judging others and judging my thoughts and behavior. I purposefully acknowledge that I am doing that, that it is not coming from a place of love. Although it is a habit from my early nurturing, it doesn’t serve me or the world.
Finally, I remind myself that I want to develop a pattern of accepting my thoughts for what they are–thoughts. I want to actively work to view each person as a child of God doing the best he can and each objectionable situation as a growth opportunity lovingly offered by my creator for my good. One day, with practice, I will arrive at my destination.